Are you happy yet? Or do you feel like you have no connection to that feeling at all? Then maybe you are standing in the way of your happiness yourself. Yes, you may be blocking your own happiness. You may have one of these mindset patterns that is preventing you from being h
Happiness is a choice
Happiness won’t just appear, it is a choice. You must allow it, invite it into your life. How? By adjusting your mindset. When you don’t have the right mindset for happiness, becoming happy won’t be easy, if not impossible.
But if you are willing to change that to finally become happy, then here is some help for the very first step towards your happiness mindset: Discover what mindset patterns are preventing your happiness. So if you feel like you want to be happy but it is just too hard, take a look at this list of 7 mindset patterns that are preventing you from being happy.
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How are those mindset patterns preventing your happiness?
Your thoughts define your reality. Thoughts that are repeated often enough turn into beliefs, and once those beliefs are fully established in your mind, they define your mindset. Then you see your life through the lense of that mindset and everything you think or do will come from and build on that basis.
But often enough, the beliefs we hold don’t help us in any way, but instead, they keep us stuck. And the worst thing about this is that they can be total bullshit and we don’t realize it because we are so stuck in that mindset. And this can go so far that we just are not conditioned to become happy. So to find happiness, we must see and understand our mindset patterns and from there, we must look for a way to change it.
1. The victim mindset
Life is unfair, and you are powerless. You cannot do anything to change your life. People are mean, and they get you down. You always are unlucky, and there is so much bad happening to you. Your boss fired you because he is an asshole. You cannot lose weight because you cannot afford healthy food. Your car broke down and now you’re always late because the buses in your town never are on time. You are a victim of life. Life is being mean to you, it has always been that way and you cannot do anything against it. You would, if there was a way!
Relating? Well, then you’ve found the limits to your happiness. You are a victim. No, you are not. You just believe you are. You’ve only bought into that belief. The good news is that you can change that belief.
2. The tired mindset
You would do something to change your life and become happy if you only were not that tired all the time. No matter what you do, you’re always feeling tired, and how can anybody do something productive if they are always so exhausted? You’re waiting for that energy to come so that you can finally change something in your life and take responsibility. But not in that state of tiredness!
I’ve been there. I know exactly how this mindset feels. It has been keeping me small for most of my school career. If only, if only… I started my day complaining about having to get up early, I slept before class and sometimes even during, my entire existence was an exhausted one.
3. The busy mindset
You are too busy to make a change. Life is so quick and busy, how should there ever be any time for happiness? You can strive for happiness when after retirement. Then you will be happy because you are not that busy anymore. You would love to just chill out and not having to worry about anything. You’re overwhelmed and there is no room for breaks. Your mind is always busy and dealing with real problems.
I know. Life can be busy. But never forget: it is always just as busy as you make it. If you believe you don’t have time, then you simply don’t have time. It’s as simple as that. No further explanation needed.
4. The “impossible”-mindset
Your dreams are not possible. They are way too far away and big and you will never make it. This world makes it impossible. This world is cruel, and there is no way this will ever change. Your situation is not going to improve and you will always be stuck because you are powerless.
When everything is impossible, there is no real reason to even try, right? If you always talk yourself out of everything because you think it won’t work anyways, then you’re stuck in the impossible mindset.
5. The “It’s-complicated”-mindset
Everything is so complicated, and you hate complicated. If only life would be easier. There are different options, but they are all complicated, and you always try to find the easiest way out of a situation, even if this means you do nothing. This also means you don’t take risks and don’t get the hell out of your comfort zone because that would involve so many difficulties and it would end up so hard that you won’t make it and get back to your comfort zone anyways.
I suffered from this mindset for a very long time, and I still sometimes do. It seemed like the rest of the world had no troubles and always thought the tasks at hand were easy. But I always just saw the work it involved and how complicated it was going to be. Yup. I was stuck there. I am glad the world has become easier since.
6. The scarcity mindset
What should you do? There is always somebody who’s done it before you. Nothing is new under the sun, so you could not be original even if you wanted to! There is no reason for you to try because there is somebody else who’s doing it better and you’re letting them do it. In this world, there is no place for dreams. You cannot succeed. There is no hope for you, as there is no place for you, and you are just none of the lucky ones that can find happiness. There is not enough for everybody, and you are one of those who just
Not true at all. The solution to this is the abundant mindset. Read this amazing post from the Chopra center for more information.
7. The self-doubt mindset
Self-doubts reign your day. You are not good enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not slim enough, not confident enough…. the list goes on. Endlessly. And there is no way you’re going to achieve anything in life, because you are just not good enough. Sadly, beliefs like this are a part of the life of many people, and they are the number one reason people don’t take action. Self-doubts is the opposite of believing in yourself, and without believing in yourself, you REALLY can’t achieve anything. Not because you are not good enough, but because you THINK you are not good enough.
To change those bad beliefs about yourself, you must absolutely invest in your self-love. Also, check out this article from Simply Living on How to reframe your negative self-talk and boost your self-esteem.
Related articles:
- 11 secrets of a positive mindset
- Why self-love is the key to your best life
- The number one way to boost your self-confidence
- 20 ways to increase your happiness
- 7 things you need to give up to be happy
Did you identify with any of the mindset patterns listed? Did you have any aha-moment? I hope I could help you with identifying what is preventing your happiness. If you’ve got any further ideas or questions, feel free to comment or write me a message at info@claudiableser.com! I’d love to hear your insights!
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