Self-confidence is the power within you that nourishes your inner light and brings it to the outside world.
With self-confidence, you cannot only serve the world with your individual
A state of mind
Self-confidence resides in your mind. It is a state of mind. A way of thinking. The state of mind that enables you to believe in yourself, trust and love yourself. With enough self-confidence, you can achieve everything you want. You have the energy to work towards your goals, overcome your fears, become happy and just live your best life, with your true potential.
Are you lacking self-confidence?
If negative self-talk and self-doubts are your constant company, you probably could use some more self-confidence. Self-confidence will shift your mindset to a more positive one. When you build your self-confidence muscle, you can get out of your own way! I promise you! Here are the 25 ways to build your self-confidence and turn you into the best you!
1. Visualize yourself as the confident you
If you don‘t know what you are looking forward to, you can‘t work towards it. Visualize the confident you. Think about how you would act, react, behave. What would you think of yourself? See yourself before your inner eye as a tall and confident person, who loves herself and rocks at life. Now that the image is there, you can work towards it.
2. Be kind to yourself
Listen to the way you are talking to yourself. Is that the way you would talk to a friend? You would never say to a friend he‘s not good enough, right? Then why do you tell yourself you aren‘t? You don’t like insulting others? Then why do you insult yourself? Stop being so critical to yourself and instead, learn to be kind to yourself.
3. Affirmations
Affirmations are sentences that you say to yourself either in your mind or out loud repetitively to help you reprogram your brain by making you believe them. With a positive affirmation, you can turn any negative situation into a positive one.
Take some time thinking about which self-affirmations could help you, and make it a habit to say them to yourself in your everyday life. Read this post about 30 self-love affirmations to find out how to use them and download your 30 self-love affirmations below!
Get your 30 self-love affirmations here!
4. Stop comparing
Everybody‘s different, everybody has another story. So comparing makes absolutely no sense. It is like looking at a cow and think „why can‘t I eat grass?“ (Weird example, but I’m sure you get what I mean)
Be you.
Not anybody else.
Because nobody else deserves your you.
Learn more about how comparison attacks your happiness here.
5. Write down what you like about yourself
It sounds difficult, but just give it a try. Name what‘s good about yourself and what you like about yourself. I assure you, there is a lot. And writing it down lays it before your eyes. Reread it. Smile. Agree. Write another statement. Repeat. As often as possible. As many as possible.
6. Do Yoga
Do yoga. The thing about yoga is that it not only strengthens and tones your body, it also boosts your self-confidence by giving you time for yourself. It teaches you to be present.
You get to know yourself and you learn to release emotions, detox and just let go. I invite you to give it a try. Be open for it and for what it can give you.
7. Act as if you were confident
Fake it ’til you make it. I know this is not something you have expected to read, because faking usually is no symbol for self-confidence, but here faking can help you.
Act as if you were confident. Change your body language. Stand tall and proud instead of slouching. Flatten the wrinkles on your forehead and set on a big smile. Speak louder. It will make a huge difference, and
8. Say no
You cannot say yes to everything all the time, because
Then let them be. It‘s not your business. If they can’t understand, they probably are the wrong people. Stay true to yourself.
9. Have goals
In order to build your confidence, you should have clear goals. Because if you have something to work towards, you’re going to find energy and motivation, and it will fill you with self-confidence. Also, if you achieve something and know you have worked hard for it, it will make you proud, which again will boost your self-confidence. Achieving goals is proving that you can.
Check out my project GOALS for GROWTH where we can reach our goals together! Simply click on the image!
10. Get to kow yourself to find out what you want
Take time for yourself, to focus on you. Look for your true desires by asking yourself questions. Check out this article on 25 questions for self-discovery by Misty Sansom on her blog and find out more about yourself.
11. Challenge yourself to something uncomfortable
It will be … well, uncomfortable, and you will feel like shitting your pants. Your mind will attack you with threats and negative self-talk, but it will fill you with new energy.
Not enough positive aspects? Believe me, you’ll be hella proud once you accomplished the uncomfortable thing that you thought you’d never do.
12. Know that you can’t fail
You even should fail, because failure teaches the best lessons. You grow by failing, standing up again and moving on.
Take a look at all the successful people! I assure you that no one of them did never fail. They surely failed several times, and the reason for their success is their attitude of never giving up. Basically, you should embrace the failure and thank it for the lesson.
13. Slow down and don’t stress
Slow down if it goes too quickly. Take your time whenever you need it. Take breaks regularly. There is no rush! Time is always there.
If you follow your needs and allow yourself regular breaks, you will have a lot more energy, which automatically gives you more self-confidence.
14. Get rid of perfectionism
Perfection. Erase that word out of your vocabulary. You should strive for everything except perfection. Why? Because you will never be satisfied when perfection is what you seek to reach. Simply because nobody and nothing will ever reach that level, and that’s fine this way and should not be any different. Expect your best version instead. Strive for getting the best out of you.
15. Accept yourself
You are just right the way you are, and you should not believe you should be any different. Accept where you are, embrace where you are and from here, you can work on your self-confidence. Read more about this in my post about the number one way to boost your self-confidence.
16. Don‘t excuse yourself for being you
You are fine the way you are and just as you should be. If anybody does not understand that and feels attacked for whatever reason, it is their problem, not yours. You should never apologize for being you. If you and another person don’t fit, you are just not meant to
17. Talk to people
Please don’t stay all on your own. Meet people and talk to them about your issues with your self-confidence. Or talk to them about personal growth or life in general. Hear their story and pick what you can learn. Look for techniques they applied themselves to get where they are. Be open, and try.
18. Tell yourself you can
If you keep telling yourself you can’t do something, then you can’t. This works the other way around, too: If you believe you can, you can. So every time you catch yourself thinking you’re not strong enough, not good enough, not whatever enough, stop it right there and turn it around. You are strong enough, you are good enough, you are whatever enough. Believe.
Learn more about beliefs, especially about limiting beliefs here.
19. Don‘t believe your self-doubts
Has anybody ever told you that your mind may be lying to you? Your mind has been formed through years and years of experiences and fears and difficult situations, and when something bad happened, it learned to avoid it in the future.
That’s how self-doubts are born.
Your mind creates them to keep from trying out new things. You don’t have to believe what it is telling you. Only because you “failed” once, it does not mean you are not good enough to try again.
Stop believing the lies.
Learn more about how to stop your self-doubts.
20. Don‘t care about what other people think
There thoughts are just not yours. So why should you care and even believe the thoughts of other people, when you should not even believe all of yours?
Other people are other people and they don’t know what is going on inside of you. They cannot understand, so obviously what they are thinking cannot be relevant to you. So thinking about it is a waste of time.
Read this post to find out how to stop caring about what other people think of you.
21. Don‘t think too much
You need to stop overthinking every situation in order to gain self-confidence. If you spend too much time in your head, your mind will automatically find excuses, negative aspects etc, and it will get you back into the trap of negative self-talk. So think less and just do it instead. Get that little kick from adrenaline and go for it.
Find out how to stop overthinking in this post.
22. Don‘t take it personal
In order to get healthy self-confidence, you must stop to take things personally. If anybody yells at you, that person may have had a shitty day, and he or she probably did not mean it to be rude. And even if he or she did, you should still not take it personally. It is not about you. Other people’s problems have nothing to do with you. Anything that goes wrong is not your fault.
23. Clean your mess
Get organized. Keep your space tidy. Clear home, clear head. Also clean your e-mail inbox, your browser, your pc, your phone. You also don’t suffocate in your own mess and can’t hide in it. Read this post to find out more about decluttering and download your decluttering checklist below!
24. Exercise
Exercising gives you hell of a lot of confidence. It makes you stronger, not only physically, but also mentally. It makes you mentally sharp, it helps you concentrate better and it triggers you to go beyond the limits of your own mind. Check out my favorite fitness instructor Cassey Ho for a nice home workout!
25. Don‘t be hard on yourself
Wherever you are on your journey, remember that it is a journey, and you should refrain from being too hard on yourself. Being hard on yourself is again nothing more than negative self-talk, and we’ve discovered that that won’t bring you anywhere. Allow yourself to be a student, because else you only hold yourself back. Focus on your progress. Focus on the good.
Find out how to stop beating yourself up in this post.
I hope I can help you with these tips. The most important things are to never give up and to always have that clear goal in mind. Know where you want to get to and it will already by nearer.
If you have any other ideas on self-confidence, feel free to comment! And maybe you may even share the post with a friend to help them? 😀 Thank you for reading!
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