7 steps to finding your purpose

Purpose. It’s such a powerful word, and a lot of us still fear it, while others are already living it.

But what is a purpose and why should you want to find yours?

Your purpose is your contribution to this world. It is what you are here for. What you have been born for. And your purpose is unique to you. It is your calling. Only you can follow your own purpose and make your difference in this world. Nobody else will. And that’s the reason why you matter. You have something amazing to offer.

If you haven’t found your purpose yet, don’t worry. Nobody says it’s easy. But I’m sure you will want to find it if you aspire to live your best and most meaningful life.
You have one life. And you are unique.
And that’s why you need to start looking for your purpose NOW.

Let’s climb into the driver seat of our lives and find our true purpose to make a difference in this world. It’s hard work. But it’s totally worth it.

In this post, I walk you through the 7 steps to finding your purpose.

1.Love yourself

To start the journey to your purpose, there is one vital thing you need: love yourself.

Self-love is not egotistical, nor arrogant. It is something you need to become happy and fulfilled in life. It’s the first step towards finding your purpose: Only when you love yourself, you will want to make your life better and invest in yourself.

Only then you will feel “worthy enough” to look for your purpose in the first place. Then you will know you deserve to feel happy and fulfilled!

Look at yourself in the mirror and name what you like about yourself. Make a list of things you do well. Regularly take breaks. Say nice things to yourself and reward yourself. Browse my posts about self-love!

2. Be honest with yourself

Stop and take a look at your life. Without judging, analyze whether you are satisfied with your life.

Do you feel fulfilled? Is there something that’s holding you back? Do you love what you are doing or is it making you feel tired? Is your gut telling you that this may not be what you want? Is it harder than it is supposed to be?

If anything is feeling not quite right, you must first learn to admit it and don’t deny or even ignore it. You need to be honest with yourself. Only then you can find your true purpose.

And if you’re not quite sure if he path you’re following is the right one, I advise you to read my post on 15 signs you are on the wrong path to find out.

3. Make room

• Free your mind

Free your mind by distancing yourself from all the thoughts you don’t need. If you are constantly being bombarded with thousands of thoughts, it’s nearly impossible to focus.

An amazing way to calm down your thoughts and learn to control them is meditation. Sit down, close your eyes and breathe. Let go. And when the thoughts appear, look at them from a distance, without digging into them, without getting into the drama. Let them go again without judging them and bring the focus back to your breathing.

• Take distance from other people’s thoughts

Other people won’t understand your decisions. It’s fine and you should not expect them to understand. There will always be people thinking you’re stupid or silly. People judge, no matter what you’re doing. Don’t listen to them. Don’t try to fulfill anyone else’s expectations. This is your life and you decide. Read more about this topic here.

4. Make time for self-discovery

You have freed your mind and detached yourself from the pressure of other people’s thoughts. But what is now the right thing to do? To find out, you first need to figure out who you are. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it stays true for everyone. This quote by Jay Shetty explains exactly what I mean with this:

You cannot expect to know what you want or need if you’ve never invested time in getting to know yourself. Make time for yourself, make space to reflect. The time you spend looking for your true self never is wasted time.

I invite you to take this self-discovery challenge by Ellduclos! It’s a useful tool to get to know yourself better!

5. Look for what energizes you

To find your purpose, you first need to look for what energizes you. Ask yourself these questions: What gives me energy and motivates me? What is it that makes me loose sense of time? What is it that makes me feel fulfilled?
This can be literally everything. May it be reading, cooking, watching movies, seeing friends. It doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that it gives you energy.

I invite you to watch this amazing interview with Mel Robbins: STOP looking for your passion and do this instead.

6. Transform the thing that energizes you into your purpose

Your purpose comes into question the moment you’ve found out what makes you feel energized. The next step now in finding your purpose is: How can I help others with it? How can I use this to make a change in this world?

If you love to read, then maybe become a book reviewer and help people chose their lecture. If you love cooking, then start creating your own recipes, write a cookbook, or maybe start your own cooking show! Your passion is writing? Start a blog or write a book! You just love talking to people and inspire them to do something specific? Become a teacher or even a public speaker!

Your possibilities are endless, and you are most definitely going to find what is right for you. I am a hundred percent sure.

7. Don’t give up

The last but not least important step is not to give up. Ever. It may happen that what you’ve first taken for your purpose turns out not to be the right thing either.

But this is the very moment you need to decide to go on.

Life is a huge process of trial and error, and no matter how often you need to reorientate, refresh your mind, reinvent yourself… it is all freaking worth it. Because you were born to find and live your purpose and to contribute something to this world.

The world needs you.NOW.

You don’t want to end up feeling sorry for yourself, nor for the world. That’s why you need to start your journey NOW, without ever looking back.